“If youth only knew; if age only could!”  I often think about this adage.  Is youth truly wasted on the young?  Wisdom, which comes with age, is housed in bodies often betraying a person who attempts to pursue a meaningful life.  Youthful bodies, which are full of vitality, lack the wisdom needed to employ rightful choices.  There seems to be a severe paradox here.  I would like to welcome you to an experience you will never forget.  I remember, all too well, growing up and being “lectured” about making good choices.  I would listen to the preaching, but I noticed, even at a young age, that parents never seemed to practice what they preached.  This is a very human characteristic.  In human behavior, we call it “cognitive dissonance.”  In plain English, this means that people hate it when their beliefs are inconsistent with their actions, or using the vernacular “You talk the talk but do not walk the walk.”  Secular psychology says that healthy individuals won't rest until they resolve that conflict by changing their thoughts, beliefs, or actions.  At least we hope so, but unfortunately, this is almost never the case.

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In all my years of practice, the question I am often asked is "How do I learn to love? I don't know how to love."  The fact of the matter is that this is the root cause of many of life's maladies.  Life's problems can be traced back to a person's inability to love.  Dr. Jay examines this problem and his book just may startle you as to why people cannot love.  Let's face it; we have lust down to a science and many people today are content because lust does not bring the levels of responsibility that love requires.  Commitment, security, faithfulness - all seem lost in today's world as generations become more and more accustom to the prevailing social mores that embrace lust.

Back in the days of our parents the world didn't offer the options and alternatives that it offers now.  Modern technology causes our lives to speed up faster and faster.  We have educated ourselves into imbecility; we eat and drink to excess.  We live in a society of entertainment and consumerism and Dr. Jay will demonstrate that consuming entities always lose.

The answer to our current roster of problems is love.  But even the word love has been misinterpreted and misunderstood to a point where it is almost meaningless.  There is no way...no road that leads to love; love is the way and Dr. Jay will explain just what this statement means.

Are you ready to change your life?  Are you ready to love?  We shall see!

Love!  What is it about this human condition that continues to draw us to one another?  I can remember, when I was in puberty, almost the exact day I started liking girls, and it scared the living bananas out of me.  Growing up, with a bunch of sisters, had made my view of females very skewed.  In fact, I couldn't understand why I wanted to like them all of a sudden, instead of pounding them into the pavement, which I had been doing to my sisters, just to stay alive.  My very first girlfriend was a girl named Regina Marshall, and to me, she was absolutely stunning.  I spent my lunch money on her every day, and we would talk in school every chance we got.  One day she asked me why I didn't hold her hand.  Stupid ol' me, just said, "Why, is something wrong with your hand?"  She laughed at me (she did this a lot), and said that when two people like each other they hold hands.  Where do boys learn this stuff?  Moreover, how come girls know about this stuff and we don't?  I soon found out that girls have these "love huddles," where they gab at each other and share experiences.  Boys gab too, but mostly about physical things like sports.  I also discovered that these girl "gab-fests" were an essential part of girlhood, and it was a big part of their psyches, to share experiences, and that this trait carries over into womanhood. 

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You can't live with them and you can't live without them!  Is this really true?  Dr. Jay examines the battles of the sexes and sets the record straight.  How did this battle get started and just who are the victors?  You will be amazed at his findings.

I am reminded of the funny story about a boss at work that got little respect from his employees.  One day after a very rough business meeting, the boss now totally fed up with the way his employees acted towards him, posted a sign on his office door as he left for lunch that read, "I AM THE BOSS!  PLEASE DO NOT FORGET THIS VITAL FACT!"  Upon his return there was a note posted on his office door, "YOUR WIFE CALLED AND SAID SHE WANTS HER SIGN BACK." 

Be sure to read this incredible book and discover what is missing in your relationships.  It will leave you laughing and crying at the same time but it will also leave you with some important skill sets to improve your gender relationships.  Men and women are meant to compliment one another instead of antagonize one another.  You will be totally amazed at the root cause behind the antagonism. 

Science tells us that all life comes from death.  As strange as this might sound, a flower must die to give way to fruit.  A grape must be crushed to give forth a satisfying wine; a sperm and an egg must die, individually, and become one, for a baby to be born.   In non-secular thought, we call this communion – to become one with someone.  However, there also exists its counterfeit… companionship – to be with someone.  When two people come together in a relationship, and do not die to their own self-interests, then a companionship-type relationship begins.  Lust is the result of companionship.  Love, on the other hand, is sacrifice, and is the result of communion.   Love grows; lust always has to be renewed.  But, let’s get back to my question for just a moment.  The adage implies a sort of stagnation.  If it is too late in the season for fruit, and too soon for springtime blossoms, then it is easy to see that the phrase may suggest being in a sort of limbo.   And this is certainly one way to look at it.  However, there is another interpretation, worthy of consideration too.  The phrase can also imply that life is getting ready to be born again.  In other words, restoration is at hand; another chance... another shot, at what you seek, is unfolding.

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